Lesson 3

Personal Body Safety and Bullying

 

Lesson Goal:

To promote body safety and respect for others.

 

Lesson Objectives:

  • Name three bullying behaviors.
  • Know the steps in dealing with bullying behavior.
  • Describe what to do if someone is trying to touch you inappropriately.

 

Content Standards Addressed:

Common Core State Standards

National Standards

 

Special note: The following material is age appropriate though it may be perceived as controversial and sensitive. If this is the case for you, but you would still like the participants to receive the information, speak to a school counselor or call the local assault crisis center. They may be able to present the information.  Please adapt this lesson as you and your school/organization see fit. If you are going to present the information, consider sending a permission slip to parents.

 

Bullying is a widespread problem. Boundaries must be established and be clear for children so problems do not arise. It is important to teach children the boundaries of appropriate and inappropriate touching.

 

Note: If a child discloses abuse during the lesson, the most important things you can do as a teacher/leader include:

1. Stay calm - report it/take action according to the rules of your school/organization.

2. Tell the child you are sorry that this has happened to him/her.

3. Assure the child that you believe him/her.

4. Tell the child that it was not his/her fault.

5. Tell the child he/she was very brave to tell such a scary thing.

 

Important points to discuss:

Who are bullies?

  • Adults.
  • Children.
  • Teenagers.
  • Anyone could be.

What do bullies do?

  • Tease.
  • Take things from you without asking.
  • Call you names.
  • Hit, kick, punch and pinch.
  • Touch you in ways you do not like.
  • Spread rumors.
  • Gossip.
  • Purposely leave you out of activities.

How does it feel to be bullied?

(It feels different for different people. Find out what the participants have to say.)

Why do people choose to bully others?

  • Lack of confidence in self.
  • Angry at something/someone.
  • Power over someone.
  • Way of showing they like the person.
  • Jealous.
  • Want something.
  • Think it's fun.
  • Friends tell them to.
  • Want to fit in.

What would be some better ways that people could let out their anger?

  • Take a walk.
  • Read a book.
  • Punch a pillow.
  • Talk with a friend.
  • Draw a picture.
  • Play a game.
  • Scream.
  • Exercise.
  • Tear paper.

What steps should be taken when dealing with a bully?

  1. Ignore the behavior/bully.
  2. Tell the bully you do not like the behavior.
  3. Walk away from the bully.
  4. If the bullying continues, talk to an adult or ask for help from a friend.
  5. Write down when the person bullies you and what they did so you have written proof of what happened.

Some bullies have touching problems. Start by having students give examples of touches that are acceptable for them.

  • Hugs from family and friends.
  • Pats on the back.
  • High fives.
  • Holding hands with family members or friends.

Have students give examples of inappropriate touches (bullying type touches).

  • Touching someone in a place the person does not want to be touched.
  • Pushing, shoving, hitting, kicking, hair pulling.
  • Flicking.
  • Unwanted tickling.

You are in charge of your body, and nobody has the right to touch you in a way you do not like. Children need to understand they have the right to say "no" to unwanted touch by children, as well as adults. Sometimes this is hard for children to understand, because of the authority adults have over children.

It is never OK for someone to touch you in an inappropriate way and tell you not to tell someone else. This kind of secret is not OK. If someone is touching you inappropriately, tell someone. It is important to:

  • Say NO!
  • Get away.
  • Tell someone (and keep telling until someone believes you).
  • Tell a parent, aunt, uncle, grandparent, school nurse, counselor, teacher, policeman or friend.

If the first person you tell does not believe you, go and tell another person.

 

Activities:

Anti-Bullying Campaign

1. Have the participants design posters based on the information learned in this lesson.

2. Encourage students to use this theme - "Everyone has the right to be respected and the responsibility to respect others." Or have them create a catchy theme of their own.

3. Have the participants post the posters around the class, school, meeting room or community.

 

Role Play

1. Have the participants role play the scenarios in the following activity or make up their own. Act out the scenarios for the class.

2. Have the participants act out each scenario in a way that is not a bullying situation.

 

What To Do?

Place participants into groups.

Read the following scenarios to the groups. Have each group come up with a solution to the scenario.

1. Every day Cindy walked home from school with her friend Dan. One afternoon Dan went home sick from school, so Cindy walked home alone. On the way home, some older boys walked behind her calling her "fatty" and making pig noises. Cindy was very frightened and upset, and she had two blocks to go until she got home. What would you suggest she do?

2. Ali, Lisa and Barb were playing hopscotch on the playground at recess. Ali accidentally lost her balance and jumped out of the lines. She decided to start over. Barb said it was her turn, and she pushed Ali out of the way. They started to push and shove each other. Lisa didn't know what to do. What do you think Lisa should do in this situation?

3. Jake and Maddie have been friends since they were in kindergarten. They both love to play video games and sports together. A new boy, Nick, moves into the neighborhood, and he likes to do the same things. Nick really likes hanging out with Jake. One day Nick and Jake are playing outside, and Maddie comes over to play. Nick says, "Why would we want to play with a girl? She probably can't even catch a ball!" Maddie says, "I can play any sport better than any boy!" Jake is stuck in a bad situation. What should he do?

4. A big group of Jessie's friends are sitting at a park on the merry-go-round talking. Jessie comes up to the group of girls and asks if she can join them. They all laugh and tell her that she can't join them because there is not enough room. Jessie sees that there is an empty spot on the merry-go-round where she could sit. What should she do?

5. A group of guys are playing football at the park. In the middle of an important play, one of the guys playing drops the ball. The players start calling him bad names. What should he do?

6. One day at recess when Jane is standing in a circle with her friends. Kyle runs up to her and pinches her bottom. Jane is very embarrassed and upset. What should she do?

 

Leader's Fast Facts:

1. Eight percent of students miss one day of class per month for fear of bullies.
2. By age 24, 60 percent of adults who bullied as children will have had a criminal conviction.
3. There is little difference between bullying in suburban, rural or inner city schools.

 

 

Additional Resources:

My Body is Private. By Linda Walvoord Girard. Albert Whitman & Co., 1992.

Bullies Are a Pain in The Brain. By Trevor Romain. Free Spirit Publishing, 1997.